Celebrating Milestones: A Journey of Resilience and Purpose

Introduction

Tonight feels different. I’ve just completed writing my book, "Anchor of Support: A Revolutionary Approach to Addiction Intervention." (It will be released on Amazon, Kindle, and Audible on 7/8/24 and I will remember to come back here and update the link)

This week has been intense, as I read through it about 40 times, making 15(ish) small changes and feeling a bit scared to push publish. This work took me well over a year to finish, and now, I’ve ordered my proofread printed hardcopy.

If you ever own a copy, let me share with you. I pride myself on not being perfect, so if you see errors from grammar to spelling...! It's more "Nate" and authentic that way.

Background

As I sit here, tears streaming down my face, I feel like I've accomplished something I never thought would be in my playbook - becoming an author of a book! Haha. Despite all I’ve done in my life and the close calls I’ve had, this moment stands out, second only to the birth of my children and granddaughter. The sensation is overwhelming and difficult to comprehend.

There’s a lot more to my story and I want to share a little more - Long ago, when I worked for my father-in-law, Brent, I looked up to him and wanted to become like him quickly. He was a man who juggled a wife and eight children, ran a business, served the community, and was a devoted church leader. Despite the stress and concerns he must have had (I better understand today), he always made me feel like I was the only one important to him. He exemplified a man of service and living in the present.

When he let me work for his company, I was excited to learn about the home-building industry but even more excited to be in his presence. I was certain that I wanted to be just like him and have the impact he had on everyone around him. However, looking back, I realize that I wasn’t ready back then. I needed to walk through a lot of life's experiences—family, friends, work, dangers, excitement, stress, loss, divorce, addiction, suicidal ideation (suicide hotline - call 988 on your phone), and everything in between—to finally be able to climb out and make an impact.

My father-in-law, Brent, passed away at a young age due to Alzheimer's, and it was devastating. His loss created a void, but his love continues to inspire me every day. Despite my divorce, my mother-in-law remains a strong source of support and embodies the same spirit as Brent. She faced this challenge and still shows up with genuine and authentic love to all her children (and I don't know how many grandchildren now). She has a great impact as she manages and trains coaches in what is probably one of the best coaching platforms, supported by The Tiny Habits Method created by Dr. BJ Fogg, Director of the Behavior Design Lab at Stanford UniversityI

I was fortunate to have overheard a lot about "Tiny Habits" in the background, and while I learned a little, it would have likely been much more beneficial for my personal development! But here I am with Holding Doors raw and super unpolished - but winning with our clients. 

I simply am writing this post today because I feel super grateful to be where I am at, and I owe much of that to Brent. I wish he was around to see that, though I am miles behind him in making an impact and serving others, what we do at Holding Doors works.

Challenges Faced

Interestingly, I didn't do much of the climbing. Many people grabbed my collar and pulled me up but we will save that for YouTube or another post down the road.  I will always be of service to anyone, anytime, anywhere. I may never be like my father-in-law, Brent, but I have experience and a lot of heart. My climb out of an alcohol problem and PTSD wasn’t just because of me; it was because of many people who supported me.

Solutions and Strategies

As I await the arrival of the book’s proof version, I am not worried about selling copies. I am more excited about giving it away and sharing the message within. "Anchor of Support," aims to show how addiction can strengthen relationships (go ahead and read that again) and guide loved ones toward change.

Whether your loved one is seeking change or not, my method and system in the book will make you strong, knowledgeable, and ready to interact in a way that encourages them to choose change starting with the critical step of inpatient treatment.

Results and Impact

Sitting here tonight, crying with a huge smile, I am grateful for my journey and the many people who love and support me. I am committed to living my purpose moving forward. Financial concerns no longer weigh me down. True connection, love, and purposeful living are what matter most. You will experience this if we ever work together or cross paths. 

Today, I played pickleball with six kids, and despite it being their first time, the laughter and smiles made the game amazing. Life’s journey is incredible but let’s reconnect. Life is truly amazing, and we all get to participate in it the way we want.

Finding Strength in Connection

Life’s challenges often feel like a solitary battle, but we are never truly alone.

If you or your loved one is struggling with addiction, remember that reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. It’s through these connections that we find the courage to face our challenges head-on.

My book, "Anchor of Support," is a testament to this truth. It’s filled with strategies and insights designed to help you navigate the complexities of addiction and support your loved ones effectively.

The Power of Purposeful Living

Living with purpose transforms our lives. It gives us direction and meaning, even in the face of adversity. My purpose has become clear: to help others navigate their own journeys of recovery and self-discovery. This mission has given me immense fulfillment and a renewed sense of joy.

As you embark on your own path, find what gives your life meaning. Whether it’s helping others, pursuing a passion, or simply being there for your loved ones, let this purpose guide you. Purposeful living is not about grand gestures; it’s about the small, everyday actions that align with your values and bring you closer to your goals. LIKE HOLDING A DOOR FOR A STRANGER!!!

Conclusion

If you’re reading this and feeling alone, know that help is available. Connection is the antidote to isolation, and together, we can overcome even the most daunting challenges. (schedule your phone consultation today).

As I wait for my book to arrive, I am filled with gratitude and hope. This project has been a labor of love, inspired by my journey and the countless people who have supported me along the way. I hope "Anchor of Support" will be a beacon of hope for others, guiding them towards recovery and a life filled with purpose.

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